In a couple’s relationship, life’s ups and downs and problems can cause one of the partners to look elsewhere. This often leads to a rift in the relationship, very negative emotions and a painful break-up. In an article carried by the Daily Mail, Annie Kaszina, a doctor and relationship coach, shows that some of the things men do can indicate infidelity.
Some people may assume that their partner is cheating on them but have no hard evidence to support their feelings.
In today’s society, temptations are everywhere and principles can be weakened by the impact of external influences.
So if you have any doubts about your partner’s loyalty, or if you suspect him or her of cheating, try to spot these 12 clues:
1. He has another woman’s signature
If your partner smells of feminine perfume, has lipstick on his neck, clothes or personal belongings, chances are he is seeing another woman. If this happens more than once and he tells you that a colleague at work has put make-up on him while kissing him, don’t be naive…
2. He comes home from work late
As luck would have it, he has a lot more work to do than he used to and it doesn’t bother him that much. His meetings go on and on and he seems very busy. He comes home later than usual and collapses on the bed without giving you any attention.
3. He/she often has his head elsewhere when you talk to him/her
He may be physically present but not psychologically present. His mind is elsewhere when you speak to him. He/she responds in an unresponsive manner and does not pay attention to your actions.
4. He takes far too much care of his appearance
Your partner used to go to work and get dressed in 10 minutes. Now he takes all his time in the bathroom to look good. He chooses his clothes carefully, does his hair to perfection and puts on perfume. Is he trying to impress his mistress? Is it necessary to answer this question for you?
5. He looks more fulfilled for no reason
Your partner looks fulfilled and yet nothing has changed in your relationship. You’re not expecting a baby, he hasn’t received a pay rise … But he seems particularly happy. The forbidden excites envy and he indulges in a dangerous but feel-good relationship at your expense.
6. He no longer pays attention to you
You change your hair, get a manicure, buy new underwear, but he doesn’t notice. You try to be softer and closer to him, but he doesn’t see it. He’s probably too busy thinking about her…
7. Your relatives confirm that something has changed
Your friends and family have an outside view of your relationship and may be able to judge your partner’s behaviour without any subjectivity. If they tell you that he or she has changed, that something is not the same as before and that they have doubts about his or her fidelity, you can ask yourself questions.
8. You sense that he is having an affair
A woman’s intuition is powerful. If you sense that your partner is interested in someone else, try to find out more. Your heart will lead you to the truth… You can get to the truth if you really want to, ladies!
9. When you tell him, he gets angry
The best defense is a good offense, they say. And indeed, when you accuse him, when he runs out of arguments, he lashes out at you. Guilt is a difficult emotion to deal with and you may be paying the price.
Trust is essential in the life of a couple, but sometimes one partner has doubts about the other’s fidelity and wants to confirm their suspicions. If you notice that he is constantly hiding his phone from you and formally forbidding you to access his messages, he may be cheating on you.
11. he is particularly nice to you
He lets you choose the TV channel you are interested in, on the rare occasions when he is present with you. He buys you gifts and tries to please you to dispel your doubts. If this behaviour is not usual, it could be that he is calming his guilt by being nicer to you.
12. sometimes he accuses you of cheating
If he cheats on you, he is no longer satisfied with the relationship. He becomes irritable and if you express your doubts, he may reply that he also has doubts about your fidelity. He will try to accuse you of infidelity to absolve himself of responsibility.